You know that feeling — when the house is a mess, the baby won’t nap, and you’re not sure if a handful of old digestives count as breakfast? Yep, I’ve been there too. That’s exactly why I wanted to start Goodness Tots to tell you that you’re not alone! We’re in this together!
Because Motherhood is Hard but You’re Never Alone
Before becoming a mum I was a corporate baddie. Moved to Singapore when I was 23, spent 4 years as an external financial auditor, almost 2 years in Private Wealth banking. Working my skinny butt off with little no sleep was my super power! I battled demanding clients and over zealous bosses and yet — nothing — and I mean NOTHING could have prepared me for the realm of Motherhood!
After struggling for 2 years to conceive, I got pregnant at the height of Malaysia’s COVID lockdowns. I went through every dramatic birth scenario before finally bringing my son earth-side. He was 3.6kg, I was traumatised.
I started off my motherhood journey exhausted and lonely. My husband had just started a new job and was only given 3 paternity leave days(might as well have none) There were days where I felt I could not continue, that maybe , I wasn’t cut out for this whole motherhood business, but looking into my baby’s sweet innocent face, I knew that this was a job I could not just resign out of. I had to keep trying. Often times, I felt like I didn’t have anyone to turn to, not family, not friends — it felt incredibly lonely but eventually the days got brighter, slightly easier and lighter.
My not-so-little baby is now 4 and I’ve just started enjoying motherhood, the ups and downs and yes, even the exhaustion! Because Motherhood is Hard, I found it even more necessary to curate a space especially for mums without traditional “villages”
No Judgement, Just Support
Whether you breastfeed, bottle feed, co-sleep, or sleep-train — I’m not here to judge neither am I here to tell you what to do.
I know that every child is different, every family has different values and what works for me might not work for you! We’re all in this (confusing) journey together! Literally no judgment, just pure support!
When I first entered this wonderful (but exhausting) realm, I thought I had read enough blogs and books and listened to enough podcasts but there I was, 2am feeding my infant, feeling all kinds of ick from my still bloated stomach to my barely washed hair — I really , desperately wanted someone to hug me and tell me that THIS was going to get easier.
What I didn’t have then , I’m creating now! A safe space for mothers to look up whatever needs looking up and if you don’t find those entertaining, maybe you’ll like me sharing about my journey? Here’s hoping!
At Goodness Tots, you’ll find:
- Real experience from me! A real mum! not some bot or some AI generated page paraphrasing from a million articles on Google.
- Simple tips to make life a little easier, not more overwhelming
- Emotional check-ins that remind you your feelings are valid
- And most importantly, a safe space to just be you!
Let’s Do This Together
I don’t always have the answers because I too am figuring it out, but if all else fails… we can get lost together or cry together, whichever you prefer!
On the good days, on the hard days, and all the in-between I hope this space brings you comfort and if not anything, helps you feel seen!
So, if today feels heavy — or if you’re just looking for someone who gets it — welcome. I’m so glad you’re here.
You’re doing better than you think Mamas!
